It will be there tomorrow, what ever it is you need to do. It’ll be there tomorrow not much worse than today. It’ll be there tomorrow happy to wait for your time. It does not have to be today.
Life is busy, sometimes too busy and I promise you, whatever it is you think has to be done today, will be there tomorrow. Like it is every day, and this is not a threat or a promise, it is a fact of life.
It will be there tomorrow, I promise you, whatever it is you have to do.
Don’t waste today, your mental health or your heart on what you think has to be done. No chore is more important than living while we have the chance. Go to bed early, or sleep in late, grab that coffee or go on a date.
When life feels like everything is a chore, turn it all off and say no, a little bit more.
I have been running full tilt through life, making sure my apartment is clean and the animals are perfectly taken care of, that hubby is happy and my work is done. I’ve been applying to more fulfilling jobs and searching up schools, I’ve been meal prepping and planning and saving.
None of this has left time for the things I enjoy and made the stuff I want to do feel like a chore. There is no easy answer to this, there is no quick fix. There is taking time and reminding yourself that not everything has to be done today.
I am right now, right here, giving you permission to not do the chores that are weighing you down. do them tomorrow, they really wont be much worse.
Dust If You Must
by Rose Milligan
Dust if you must, but wouldn’t it be better
To paint a picture, or write a letter,
Bake a cake, or plant a seed;
Ponder the difference between want and need?
Dust if you must, but there’s not much time,
With rivers to swim, and mountains to climb;
Music to hear, and books to read;
Friends to cherish, and life to lead.
Dust if you must, but the world’s out there
With the sun in your eyes, and the wind in your hair;
A flutter of snow, a shower of rain,
This day will not come around again.
Dust if you must, but bear in mind,
Old age will come and it’s not kind.
And when you go (and go you must)
You, yourself, will make more dust.
Here is what you do
(and this wont work for everyone)
- Stop looking at the things you used to enjoy as an escape from these chores and everyday life. Doing this causes anxiety and feelings of guilt while you try and rush and fit in what you enjoy. The next time you go to “enjoy something” those feelings of anxiety and guilt will be there, because that is what you have programmed your body to do.
- Take a step back and re-evaluate what really does need to be done. We live in a world of preconceived ideas. We believe that everyone else has got it together and can “do all the things” and we should too. No one has it together, we can not do all the things in the time that society has given us.
- Make sure that what you are doing, feel like you should be doing and have planned is in fact for you. Make sure that you are not anxiously feeling like you need to clean every day because that’s what your mom or your hubby does or wants you to do. If nothing is falling apart, and no bugs or strange things are growing, it can wait until tomorrow. Only we know where our mental state is. Just because someone else in the house is cleaning or feels like getting things done does not mean you have to too. Breathe and if you have to, tell them no. If they do no understand then it is time to sit down and have a conversation about it. (however, this doesn’t mean let others do all the work, just let them know, it’ll get done tomorrow)
Hobbies can feel exhausting
- Don’t feel like you have to do something you enjoy! Stop scheduling video games, reading, hiking etc like you would chores. If you feel like it is a chore or just another thing to be done that day, don’t do it. You can step away from the things you love and still love them. You do not have to do them every day or all the time, are you enjoying them or trying to show others that you still love them to hide the fact that you’re struggling?
Get some sleep
- Chances are you have been tossing and turning at night or not sleeping at all, falling asleep later than normal and not sleeping through the night. Take an hour before bed, NO you don’t have anything that needs to be done! Drink a tea or hot milk or something relaxing to promote sleep, even a glass of room temp water (stay hydrated!) if you feel up to it, read something close to a self help book (nothing thrilling) something like a yoga 101 or meditation for beginners, maybe yarn ideas, but stay away from screens! If you don’t feel up to it, just sit, in your PJ’s or comfy bed clothes and drink your tea, relax, let your thoughts go nuts like they do before bed and after a few sips or half a cup, breathe. Calm your thoughts, remember there is always tomorrow. Let your body feel tired, and even if you don’t finish your cup, put it on the bed side table/ floor/ wherever and lay down, and get some sleep. You do not have to put it away today.
- Schedule time with your doctor, get a blood/hormone test if you’re really feeling low for a long time. Are you iron or B12 deficient, are you not getting enough vitamin D, are your hormones out of whack for some reason. Have them do an evaluation for depression if you feel it is more than just burn out.
- Know that all this is, is Burn out. When you find ways like yoga, bullet journaling, meditation and finding time for yourself without feeling guilty you will climb out of it and begin to enjoy the little things. Just don’t try to force it or make it happen today. There is always tomorrow.