When you feel like you’re failing
- Compare yourself to others
- Turn to social media
- Give up
- Turn to (old) bad habits
- Look at past achievements
- Keep a journal or planner – plan your goals and record your achievements (not matter how small!)
- Turn off your devices
- Focus on Self Care
- Reach out to friends and family
- Make a gratitude journal or jar
- Attempt meditation and/or yoga
- Read – books, journals, magazines, or blogs!
- Talk to your boss about lightening your work load, or giving you something more meaningful to do.
- That you’re not failing
- You are learning
- You are growing
- you’re moving at your own pace
- You are not alone.
Stress can make it feel like nothing is happening fast enough. That we aren’t enough. That we haven’t accomplished enough. We can feel like we’re failing. Like everyone has it easier, or they’re happier.
I want to shout out to Dwell in Magic for their insights and tips and personal experience. It’s a blog I found back at the beginning of my chronic stress journey and one that has really helped me. The same way I have hoped to help others.
It just goes to show that we are not alone in this. We may all go through it differently, but we all go through it. We can all feel this way. I do all the time!
Different resources can be helpful in times like these. For me it is reading other blogs and writing my own. To remind myself I am not alone and help others feel the same way.
Pushing through these feelings
Pushing through feelings of failing and overwhelm can be healthy. Trying to push through by avoiding whats causing these feelings is not. Make sure to take time to write down everything that’s going on in your mind.
The things you are overthinking about. Reasons why you think you’re feeling like you’re failing and reasons why you are not failing.
Once you have a clear reason in mind for how you’re feeling you can work towards a goal.
I’ve had to do this, this week. Hence the post. I couldn’t figure out why the last few weeks it has felt like I am so far behind where I want to be. This feeling of failure has led to moodiness, irritability, lashing out on loved ones, stress and anxiety. It has made my depression worse.
Making a plan
So it is time to make a plan, and remember that this is a goal for the future. One that will take time.
Is it your job getting you down? No longer feeling like the job is meaningful? No recognition or room to move? Too stressful or unfulfilling?
Is it a bad relationship? Someone in your life making it feel like you’re not accomplishing enough? We love our parents and our significant others. But sometimes what they want for us comes across as what we have not achieved, alone. Maybe it’s time to sit down and have an honest conversation.
Is there something you haven’t accomplished you thought you would by now? It’s never too late to make a plan and try again. Set a later date.
Is it financial? Time to make a budget, reassess your finances and keep trying. Look for a different job, ask for help.
Make a plan.
Know you are not alone. Even when it feels like it.